Are we leading our children with intent?

The role of a parent has evolved over the years. A parent does not simply raise children; a teacher does not simply teach. Parents now lead with intent. Historically, the knowledge gained by our past, through our parents, and grandparents are reflected in the present and used to raise our children but can we use this knowledge without any alterations? I doubt it. The knowledge my parents and grandparents gained through raising their children is enough for me to raise my children and make them the ‘leaders of tomorrow’.

What can we do as parents to lead with intent? Leadership is a process in which a person influences others to accomplish goals. To help our children be good leaders we could help create small achievable goals. These goals, once achieved, will give them pride and joy and a sense of accomplishment. Now, it is important to create tasks that go with your children’s personalities.

Children can be given tasks as early as three years. If your child loves cupcakes, as most children do, you could bake with your child. You could ask them to lead in the grocery store and pick decorations for the cake. Ask them the reasons for picking these decorations and even have a conversation around it. They will enjoy this process. After and during the process of decorating the cake, praise their leadership skills and list out the things they did great and things they could do differently the next time. If you have older children, talk to them about a project you are working on and do some brainstorming with them. Ask them if it were them, what would they do in a particular situation. Acknowledging and honoring their answers will boost their confidence and encourage their creative thinking.

If you are parenting in a very fast-paced environment, the least you could do is simply be kind to yourself, love yourself and tell yourself you are doing the best you possibly can. Sometimes what children really need is a happy parent that they can look at and feel safe. You could also simple things like asking them if they would like to pray or meditate with you or go for a walk with you. The most valuable time I had with my children are after my prayers; sitting on my magic prayer mat when they would tell me an unedited and innocent version of something funny that happened in the school and laugh about it. The joy of my children’s laughter reminds me to slow down and enjoy the small things in life and just capture these moments, not just on my phone but cherish it in my heart.

Hamna Siddique MS, CCII, CLC is a coach specializing in career, business, and leadership coaching. Website:, Email: ©2019 Goldbridge Coaching LLC | All Rights Reserved |

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