How to deal with anxiety

All stress, anxiety, depression, is caused when we ignore who we are, and start living to please others.” – Paulo Coelho, 2014 – While I believe it is great to breathe slowly when you are anxious, it is not a long-term solution to problems. I have been into Marcus Aurelius, the former Roman emperor’s philosophy, […]

Does the current life around technology affect our focus?

“If you want to be happy, do not dwell in the past, do not worry about the future, focus on living fully in the present.” ― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart The early 2000s saw the burst of the dot com bubble and within a few years, our lives transformed tremendously as we […]

Why hard work alone isn’t enough to get ahead

“Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is success.” – Henry Ford Last week, a client asked me why he was not taught all the things we talked about during coaching in college. He said he was at a disadvantage in his professional life because he didn’t know these things. My […]

How perfectionism affects leadership?

“Perfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.” ― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection A few years back, I decided to make positive changes in my life. I […]

How to develop your communication skills?

Don’t use words too big for the subject. Don’t say infinitely when you mean very; otherwise, you’ll have no word left when you want to talk about something really infinite. – C.S. Lewis Most of my posts are prompted by conversations with my clients through coaching. The need to write about an issue is compelling […]

How to know if you are a good leader?

“A leader is best when people barely know he exists, when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will say: we did it ourselves.” —Lao Tzu There is an old saying that Leaders are born, but are they? Can leadership skills be learned? Yes, most definitely! Although leadership skills include a multitude of tools […]

What is self-esteem and self-confidence?

“I prefer to be true to myself, even at the hazard of incurring the ridicule of others, rather than to be false, and to incur my own abhorrence.” ― Frederick Douglass Self-confidence and self-esteem are two concepts that are used interchangeably but they are two different things. A person with high self-confidence and low self-esteem may […]

Can you be too feminine to be a feminist?

I have always loved being feminine and still do. As a young girl, a trip to the make-up store made me feel like a kid in a candy store, and honestly, it still does. I cherished wearing skirts, dresses, and heels. (I still do!) Feminine Feminist! But a while back, when I decided to become […]

Why does emotional intelligence matter?

When I tell people, I have a background in organizational psychology, they tell me “Oh so you are not a therapist, you don’t deal with people?” I then consider it my civic duty to remind them that organizations are made of people. It is the people that form an organization, its culture, values, communication pattern, […]

How to be a good leader?

As a coach, I am asked the question “How to be a good leader?” far too many times. I wish there was a ‘one size fits all’ answer to this question. The reality is that leadership is not an entity one can grow into overnight. So, what is the best approach to developing leadership skills? […]