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Finding Purpose in Life through Coaching

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” Eleanor Roosevelt

Elanor Roosevelt could not have said it better. Dreams are what creates reality for some of us. My coaching and blogging career is an outcome of a dream that I dared to dream in spite of the fear of failure and disappointment.

The geniuses Einstein and Newton are said to have been daydreamers. They allowed their minds to wander in between their exploration. Studies show that taking adequate elaborate breaks and coming back to more complex tasks help in making the tasks easier. Allowing yourself to these much-needed breaks improved productivity by about 40%. Many leaders have come up with efficient ideas while engaging in other activities that are not directly linked to their work.

Needless to say, we are in the midst of a pandemic and in very trying times but we all have been given these wonderful lives that we must live. We could choose to live in fear and desperation or thrive in the lives that we have. Some of us who have been spinning in the same wheel of life could use this time to take a step back and simply dream about a life that we aspire to live.

These are a few ways we can find a purpose in life:

Prioritize: Taking a step back from the hustle of life will help us refocus on what our priorities are in life and pivot our lives accordingly. Explore the true meaning of your life. If today was the last day on Earth, what would be some of the most important things to you? Will it be your spirituality, your family, friends, education, or your career? Or is there something else that is burning inside of you?

Heal: Healing your old wound is important in moving forward to achieve a purpose in life. If you have old wounds that you have ignored, they need to be addressed. It is only a matter of time when an incident or a person can trigger this wound and pull you back from your success journey.

Surround yourself with cheerleaders: You may have a hundred friends but if they do not find happiness in your success and bring you down, they may be obstacles to your life purpose. It is important to ask yourself why are you friends with this person? Do they possess the ethics and values that you desire in a friend? If this intimidates you, do not worry, you will find your tribe during the course of finding your life purpose.

Helping people through your life purpose: A life purpose only has true meaning if and when people can benefit from you. What can you achieve in life? Does achieving this purpose create room for altruistic behavior? Does it create more meaning in your life?

Your secret power: What is your secret power? What do others see in you? It is something that makes you unique. My secret power, as I realized a few years back has been keeping others’ secrets. People have come to me even before I was a coach with their issues and pain. I have used this secret power to build my career.

Mindset Magic: If you follow my blog, you will know that I use these two words regularly. If you are not self-aware of what you are trying to achieve and do not possess the right mindset to achieve it due to various blocks that you may have in your lives, it is important to work on your mindset.

If you feel you would like to learn more about yourself or be more aware of your feelings to find your purpose in life, please book an intro session with me. I look forward to helping with your personality development and get you the success you need in your personal and professional life.

Hamna Siddique is a career and leadership coach focusing on confidence and personal development.

Email: hamnasiddique@goldbridge.llc. https://hamnasiddique.com/| ©2020 Goldbridge Coaching LLC |All Rights Reserved|

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You will learn a lot about yourself and how you work around people. Your newfound awareness will help increase self-expression that will help you get noticed by others.

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How to Overcome Fear and Resistance to Change

“Change is never painful. Only the resistance to change is painful.” – The Buddha.

Resistance to change is an issue that we face as humans on an individual level and at an organizational level. Resistance to change can be seen in the form of procrastination, hostility, frustration, and can affect our success in the long run. We, as humans also make a number of excuses for our resistance such as “this is how I have always been” or “I like it that way” or even “my family has always done it this way”. Here are a few reasons why people show resistance to change and how you can navigate your way around resistance to change:

Lack of awareness: If you are unaware of the need for change, and has created a norm or a particular way of doing things, it is likely that you will resist change. Hence, it is important that people are self – aware of their personality and their behavior patterns.

Uncertainty: Uncertainty is a huge cause of resistance to change as people are afraid of the unknown factor in the future. People may hesitate to make a change in their lives if they fear the unknown. Change is only made in lives when we are forced or if continuing to live the same way seems impossible or a threat to us. It is wise to do your research if you fear the unknown and would like to make a change in your life.

Lack of skill and knowledge: Sometimes lack of skill, knowledge and experience can create fear in the minds of individuals who are resistant to change. This is a genuine fear and, in such cases, it is best to get the help of an expert.

Belief system: Some believe the way they do things is the best and right way to do. Even if things are not going right, unless there is an intervention, they may not change what they believe in. Again, only a professional can give an insight into the belief system and manifest a change, if needed.

Routines: We love our routines and would not like anything that disrupts it. It takes a lot of effort to change these routines but with a little motivation and endurance, it is possible.

If you feel you would like to learn more about yourself or be more aware of your feelings to improve your personal and professional life, please book an intro session with me. I look forward to helping with your personality development and get you the success you need in your personal and professional life.

Hamna Siddique is a career and leadership coach focusing on confidence and personal development.

Email: hamnasiddique@goldbridge.llc. https://hamnasiddique.com/| ©2020 Goldbridge Coaching LLC |All Rights Reserved|

 

 

 

How to cope with stress from a big change?

“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” ― Leo Tolstoy

Change or die was a motto I lived by during Grad school days and ever since. Any change was not easy for me but the discipline I chose enforced me to change my ways for the better. It is a fact that we cannot keep doing what we have always been doing. We live in such a world that if we do not embrace change, in our personal and professional lives, we may not succeed. No wonder, change management is a huge part of businesses these days. Change management is an organized and planned approach to support people through change. Change Management can happen at an individual level, on a project, and on an organizational level. It can be a necessity because of factors that we cannot control or can simply be a preparatory step towards development. I would like to focus on change at an individual level here.

Broadly speaking, change requires three steps: Preparing for change, managing the change, and reinforcing the change.

From my own experience, reinforcing change was the hardest. Here are a few things I have discovered in coping with an environmental change:

Shock: Surprise and shock are inevitable when trying to enforce a change, whether it is a sudden need of the time such as the pandemic COVID-19, we are experiencing now or a preventive step taken deliberately towards achieving success. Uncertainty is a huge cause of confusion and makes decision-making difficult. Therefore, it is important to step back and fully understand the situation before making any important decisions.

Emotional surge: It is not uncommon for people to have an emotional surge or an outpour during change. The change caused by the pandemic has created a huge emotional outpour among individuals. It is important to be self- aware of these emotions, what causes it, when and where it arises from, so we can manage it better. It is also important to find an outlet to vent your emotions because suppressing your emotions may do more harm than good.

Embracing change: This is the stage where we begin to embrace change. We show reluctance and hesitation but understand that it is needed and take a step closer to the future. Our minds may have mixed emotions on the new acceptance of this change. This stage may be a slow process for many of us.

Acceptance to the new life: This is the final stage where we fully come to terms with the new life. But we also try to bring as much as our past into this life and look for manifestations where we can sprinkle our previous habits into the new life.  

If you feel you would like to discuss issues you have had embracing a change, and is worried about the effects and aftermath of it, and would like to discuss your personal or professional life through coaching sessions, I am happy to provide an intro session to discuss your needs. You can schedule an appointment through my website anytime. 

Hamna Siddique is a career and leadership coach focusing on confidence and personal development.

Email: hamnasiddique@goldbridge.llc. https://hamnasiddique.com/| ©2020 Goldbridge Coaching LLC |All Rights Reserved|

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You will learn a lot about yourself and how you work around people. Your newfound awareness will help increase self-expression that will help you get noticed by others.

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How to Attain a Magical Growth Mindset?

“Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be.”— Abraham Lincoln

Many of my blog posts have mentioned mindset in multiple places. Mindset is magic! Our mindset helps make a lot of decisions for us but the decisions we make are determined by the type of mindset. Mindset is categorized into two – fixed mindset and growth mindset.

Individuals with a fixed mindset rarely believe in change. They believe their personality, habits, and behavior patterns are innate and do not work much on their personality development. These individuals are also very watchful of others judging them for their behavior. Whereas individuals with a growth mindset always embrace change and believe in developing their skills and knowledge through education and hard work. Just like the Stanford marshmallow experiment on gratification, mindset experiment was tested on children.

Research on neuroscience has shown that our brain’s plasticity allows an increase of neural growth depending on our lifestyle – our actions, food habits, sleep pattern, and our life strategies in general. A more productive lifestyle with a positive and growth mindset leads to increased motivation and achievements in life. Mindset can also be fluid. A group can attract a certain type of mindset and that particular mindset can become the identity of the group.  For example, if a person among a group of friends’ ventures into various business ideas different from the norm and is determined to find success in spite of many failures, they are a good example of a growth mindset. Here are a few ways to achieve a growth mindset:

Being self-aware: It is important to be aware of what your mind is telling you about your achievements. If your thoughts are negative and not encouraging, it is important to evaluate those thoughts. It is a good idea to look back at how you have handled some difficult situations in the past.

Instigating change:  Once the thoughts are verified, the next step towards a growth mindset would be instigating change by changing your old methods and strategies. For example, go the extra mile and do something you thought you could never do and you may be surprised by how good you are at it and resent putting it off for this long.

Question your old methods: Change is hard for everyone and so questioning an age-old habit or a family belief is even harder. But if we change the way we talk about ourselves, it is likely that we may advance towards a growth mindset. For example, instead of saying “I am a loser” or “I have failed at this task” we say, “I am still trying to figure it out” or “I have not found an answer yet but I soon hope to” will help a lot in keeping our determinism.

If you feel you would like to learn more about yourself or be more aware of your feelings to improve your personal and professional life, please book an intro session with me. I look forward to helping with your personality development and get you the success you need in your personal and professional life.

Hamna Siddique is a career and leadership coach focusing on confidence and personal development.

Email: hamnasiddique@goldbridge.llc. https://hamnasiddique.com/| ©2020 Goldbridge Coaching LLC |All Rights Reserved|

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You will learn a lot about yourself and how you work around people. Your newfound awareness will help increase self-expression that will help you get noticed by others.

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How can we use failure to attain success?

“Don’t spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door.” ― Coco Chanel

I find it amusing that the definition of failure is ‘lack of success’. We rarely succeed without failing, so I believe a more philosophical and ideological definition for failure should be a path to success. There is something stimulating about people who are successful in talking about their failures in the past. Their speeches have filled far too many commencement ceremonies. People crave these speeches as it does what it is meant to do…motivate, inspire.

Failure in our many ventures in life is a sign that there is another way to do it and yes by the time we discover the other ways, we may have used up a lot of our energy, time, and even resources, which may lead to disheartening. But the important thing to remember is that failure is the best experience life can give us. Ironically, you are the expert in this ‘failure’ and you could use that knowledge to educate yourself and others around you. Also, the theory of failure is very conceptual. What is a failure to one may not be a failure to the other. So, how can we use our failure to attain success?

As you may have heard before, failure must be embraced with both arms, no matter how hard it is. You may have put your heart and soul in your project but failure sometimes is inevitable. Certain external factors can also play a huge part as a reason for the failure of your project. It is also imperative that we not let our failure affect our mindset and motivation. There is nothing wrong with admitting to failure and accepting it as a stepping stone to success. Many leaders in organizations and also business owners find it disparaging to accept their failure. Accepting means admitting to failure and the blame associated with it. This is particularly difficult in the corporate world where leaders do not like to take the blame on themselves.        

Simply put, failures can be categorized as preventable and non-preventable, which is why it is important to do thorough research into what the reasons for your failure are. Most importantly, it is a necessity for your sustainability that you draw a line when and where you have to revise your product or service, make the amendments needed, pivot it, and QUIT. Yes, you cannot keep doing what you do and fail forever. You must at some point step back from your project at one point and look at the bigger picture and quit before you lose more than you need to.

Failure is only ‘lack of success’ if you believe it to be, if not it can be a ‘path to success’!

If you feel you would like to explore a path that you have taken or would like to take and is unsure of the effects and would like to discuss your work through coaching sessions, I am happy to provide an intro session to discuss your needs.   

Hamna Siddique is a career and leadership coach focusing on confidence and personal development.

Email: hamnasiddique@goldbridge.llc. https://hamnasiddique.com/| ©2020 Goldbridge Coaching LLC |All Rights Reserved|

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You will learn a lot about yourself and how you work around people. Your newfound awareness will help increase self-expression that will help you get noticed by others.

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Why Men Struggle to Express their Emotions?

“The greatest deception men suffer is from their own opinions.” -Leonardo da Vinci

We have heard too often in recent times about the harmful and destructive language that we use for boys and men. Lately, we have seen a decline in these sayings but our attitude towards masculinity still remains outdated. We, humans, shed tears to protect our eyes and to show our emotions. We cry when we are upset and the act of crying acts as a painkiller, which is why we feel better after we cry. But sadly, men are told frequently growing up to “be strong” and “be a man” which leads to internalizing feelings and the inability to express themselves verbally and physically.

The inability to express feelings through words does not equate to a lack of feelings. Men feel pain. Men feel immense, deep pain that needs addressing but men may fail to display it at the right time. Men feel it is important to express their feelings and emotions in the right venue and time if they express their feelings at all. At times, the pain may come as physical symptoms such as stomach pain or headache. Some men bury themselves into their work so they can escape from the realities and pain of the world. Some have become so good at hiding their emotions that they do not even know how to comprehend their feelings.

At times, men who express their emotions are laughed at and perceived as lacking masculinity, which may lead to shutting themselves again. Buying into these stereotypes or gender norms can be further damaging and lead to loneliness and inner pain. While women enjoy venting to their female friends, men hesitate to open up to their male friends due to the fear of being perceived as weak. This is probably why men usually seek female counselors to discuss their issues if they seek help at all. Things are worse for men who have suffered domestic violence or sexual abuse because this means admitting to a weakness that is conflicting masculinity and manliness. The fear of being judged on opening about their feelings will lead to pushing the feelings aside. The emasculation of men who express love and compassion for loved ones is another consequence faced. In some societies, men who change diapers of their babies are criticized for doing so and men who express love to their spouses are disapproved by their families.

Women who are vulnerable are not criticized for being so whereas men who are vulnerable are disparaged and ridiculed which is probably why some men think twice before showing compassion and affection in public or exhibit their true emotions. Some cultures also expect men to showcase their virility through their body language and otherwise even if they prefer not to. All these expectations put a lot of pressure on men, confusing men on what is right and wrong.

Men need a place to show their emotions too. Although there has been a positive change in the way society sees men who express their emotions, we have a long way to go. This blog post was triggered by a number of male clients I spoke to who had never before spoken about their personal and professional issues before with anyone and was hesitant to do so. I also spoke to a few men who were genuinely surprised when asked about their feelings and inspiration in their workplace because feelings are not a place they associated to the workplace. Being aware of the feelings you experience at the workplace can help keep a check on your stress level.

What you perceive as a gigantic problem in your personal and professional life may not be as big as you think. All you need to do is seek help and you may find multiple ways to navigate around it. You may be surprised how trivial a problem can be when you get the right help.

If you feel you would like to learn more about yourself or be more aware of your feelings to improve your personal and professional life, please book a complimentary intro session with me. I look forward to helping with your personality development and get you the success you need in your personal and professional life.

Hamna Siddique is a career and leadership coach focusing on confidence and personal development.

Email: hamnasiddique@goldbridge.llc. https://hamnasiddique.com/| ©2020 Goldbridge Coaching LLC |All Rights Reserved|

Activating a new level of confidence or building leadership skills for a promotion in your organization does not have to be complicated or overwhelming. Sign up for this coaching program to improve your self-confidence and leadership skills. https://hamnasiddique.com/products/emotional-intelligence-testing-eq-i-2-0-2-2/

You will learn a lot about yourself and how you work around people. Your newfound awareness will help increase self-expression that will help you get noticed by others.

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How to develop your personality through self-awareness

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” ―Ralph Waldo Emerson

The most arduous part of my job is when a potential client asks me what they can achieve through coaching. This is not something I can answer in a sentence as there is so much to say. You may find meaning in your life, your career, your passion. You may find out your “why” and that moment may change everything around you. What one client achieves will be different from what the other achieve. An individual could work on various skills – emotions, mindset, personality traits, behavior patterns, all of which could completely transform your life to bring success in the long run, or bring a purpose to your life that you may not have even imagined. The most crucial action in personality development is to take the first step to enhance your knowledge and awareness about yourself.  

The most important personality skill for a person depends on what they are trying to achieve. I have listed a few here that I think are important:

  1. Self-reflect on your behavior: What do people frequently notice about you that you can agree upon as a skill you excel at a little more than others. Use this skill in your personal and professional life to live a more fulfilling life. What is that one skill you know you would like to improve upon? Try to reach a goal of building this skill so you can make the best use of this skill.
  2. Mindset Magic: I have mentioned mindset in multiple places in my blog posts and other social media posts. If we are happy with the limited skills we possess and do not feel the need to improve upon our skills, we may not achieve higher goals. Our mindset needs to be positive and always growing. Trying to find forced gratification in the unhappy place we are in will lead to a stagnant personal and professional life.
  3. Identify and manage stress triggers: Stress is one of the biggest hindrances in achieving goals. Stress is also highly linked to your mindset. Extreme stress can make you fall back to a negative mindset. Identifying your stress triggers and trying your best to manage these triggers will help in a healthier lifestyle.
  4. Build your side hustle: If you are not already doing so, try to divert your passion and drive to build your side hustle. This will help create a retirement life that is profitable for you by generating higher income. You may have so much more to give to yourself and the world than you already do. It is worthwhile to dig inside yourself for skillsets that may change your life for good.
  5. Be resilient to failure: Being successful in your career or being a successful entrepreneur is not always easy. We may fail multiple times until we gain success. It is important that we see these failures as opportunities and spring back into action rather than accept defeat. Alibaba founder, Jack Ma’s story is a popular one. Ma was rejected for every job he applied to include KFC. Ma was also rejected by Harvard but he is now one of the most successful entrepreneurs in the world and his company’s market cap is more than $400 billion.
  6. Journal your development: It is important to know where you are in your personal development journey and where you would like to be in a certain period of time. What particular skill are you trying to enhance and how will you enhance are some crucial questions you can ask yourself. Personality development is almost impossible without a call to action. Discover your call to action for your present state.
  7. Find your reasons for not investing in yourself: Many find money to be a huge cause for not investing in personality development but do not think twice before buying other tangible things. It is evident that the more we develop on our personality, the more advanced our thoughts and skills will be which will bring us closer to our goal and eventually success.

Coaching is a great way to develop your personality and learn more about yourself by advancing your skillsets and mindset. Book an intro session with me to find out what skills you would like to develop that will lead to success in your personal and professional life and what issues you are struggling with within your life that needs addressing.

Hamna Siddique is a Career and Business Mindset Coach who focuses on leadership and personal development. 

Email: hamnasiddique@goldbridge.llc. https://hamnasiddique.com/| ©2020 Goldbridge Coaching LLC |All Rights Reserved|

Activating a new level of confidence or building leadership skills for a promotion in your organization does not have to be complicated or overwhelming. Sign up for this coaching program to improve your self-confidence and leadership skills. https://hamnasiddique.com/products/emotional-intelligence-testing-eq-i-2-0-2-2/

You will learn a lot about yourself and how you work around people. Your newfound awareness will help increase self-expression that will help you get noticed by others.

Not sure coaching is for you, sign up for the Emotional Intelligence assessment 2.0

 

 

How does the leader in us recognize racism through humility?

 

“I suppose leadership at one time meant muscles; but today it means getting along with people.” –Mahatma Gandhi

Leadership is a vast topic. The types of leadership skills range from the one identified by Kurt Lewin’s team in 1939 to numerous other patterns of leadership styles discovered by researcher Bernard M. Bass in the 1970s to Hersey and Blanchard’s leadership styles. But an element of leadership that most people overlook is humility. Even to this day, leadership to many wrongly equates to power and charisma. I believe a leader who uses his charisma and dupes his crowd is the most dangerous of all leaders.

So how does humility make one a great leader? We notice time and again the wisest among us are the ones who listen and want to learn more, not the ones who think they already know enough. The idea that the knowledge we possess is little leads to more learning, acquiring knowledge, and decision-making skills. My blog post on Outcome Bias touches on the topic of the consequences of overconfidence and lack of humility.

Modern times have seen a lot of discussion on high self-esteem and positive affirmations. And as much I agree to the idea that self-esteem and positive affirmations are important in our lives, we must also leave some room for healthy humility, that will help keep us grounded to reality. Healthy humility will help create a chamber in our heart to hear and help understand the deprived, the disadvantaged, the have-nots. It will help us recognize at least a fraction of racism. Racism not only stems from institutional and structural dynamics but also interpersonal biases. Growing this human trait of humility leads to a better understanding of structural racism that can be tied to the history of American slavery and the Civil Rights Movement. It is important for the privileged to understand why people behave a certain way, or what role hundreds of years of oppression plays in modern racism. Increasing our humility will also help in understanding certain disparities in health, education, and occupation that create major socio-economic disadvantages in society.

It is unfair and biased for the privileged to only see the repercussion of the deprived because of the aftermath of years and years of domination. Exposure and cultural awareness will help increase humility that will help us understand the behavior and conduct of minorities that are disadvantaged. This will also slow the “quick to judge” attitude towards the oppressed. This may lead to a properly conceptualized reasoning that will include nonracial dimensions of inequality. Merely trying to understand racism and discrimination is just a small start to thoughtful and strategic planning that is needed in society today.

A good leader, from any segment of the society, will take an initiative to slow their pace and recognize aspects of racism that may not be overtly distinct. Humility and being a good listener will help identify these aspects in the society we live in, the community that we associate with, and the organization that we work for.

Hamna Siddique is a career and leadership coach focusing on confidence and personal development.

Email: hamnasiddique@goldbridge.llc. https://hamnasiddique.com/| ©2020 Goldbridge Coaching LLC |All Rights Reserved|

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You will learn a lot about yourself and how you work around people. Your newfound awareness will help increase self-expression that will help you get noticed by others.

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Do Positive Self-Help Affirmations and Mantras really help us?

Self-help mantras and positive affirmations are thronging social media platforms such as Instagram and Facebook. These quotes have really caught my attention lately. Yes, they are inspiring and they do make me feel great about myself sometimes. Self-help is also a multi-million-dollar industry. Let me also say I am talking about quotes pertaining to self-help here and not quotes from great leaders and motivators. So, what are self-help mantras? Here are some examples:

“I have the knowledge to make smart decisions for myself.”

“I have all that I need to make today a great day.”

“I am, and always will be, enough.”

 These are some great positive self-affirmations. At first glance, it is difficult to see anything wrong with it. Now, I would like you to picture a client of mine who experiences low self-esteem at the workplace and struggles to find his voice in meetings. If he is asked to say “I am, and always will be enough” every day, it will contradict his inner feelings and may result in him feeling worse. Research shows that for people like my client, it is more rewarding when their negative feelings are brought out with the help of a broader intervention than overly positive and unreasonable affirmations that they do not relate to.

Social media platforms force us to think positively but the reality is that it does not really lead to happiness. When we fail at something, these beliefs on positive affirmations contradicting the story that we build in our head can cause real harm. Our understanding of what makes us happy can be skewed sometimes. If I were to choose between two events – one a vacation in Mexico and one volunteering to coach and guide someone who needs me, whom I have never met in my life and lives in another continent, I definitely would choose the vacation and I would think that would make me happy. The truth is these two events happened in my life and I am pleasantly surprised that the volunteer session I did with this individual brought me a sense of ecstasy that I have never experienced before. The fact that she sat in a house with no walls talking about women empowerment gave me goosebumps.

Paradoxically, an individual who has high self-esteem can gain a lot of benefits from these self-help affirmations to enhance his career and life in general. Having good family relationships, close friends, a satisfactory job are some of the factors that affect an individual’s self-esteem. It is important to understand that self-esteem cannot be based purely on a simple self-affirmation every day in front of the mirror. If you have low self-esteem and your confidence is affecting your productivity, promotion, and climbing the ladder of success, it is imperative that you get help and not resort to self-affirmations that may be doing more harm than good.

One piece of advice that has not gone to waste for me is that we are in control of our thoughts and actions. It is not a surprise that your thoughts and actions are related. If your positive self-affirmations are contradicting your beliefs and actions, you must not sweep them under the rug. Using words that contradict what you are truly feeling will not change things in your life. I strongly recommend getting help, invest in yourself. We invest in clothes, cars, and houses but hesitate to invest in our development. You must be your first priority not what you own. Saying “things are fine” multiple times, does not make it fine. You must confront your issues for it to actually be fine one day.

Hamna Siddique is a career and leadership coach focusing on confidence and personal development.

Email: hamnasiddique@goldbridge.llc. https://hamnasiddique.com/| ©2020 Goldbridge Coaching LLC |All Rights Reserved|

Activating a new level of confidence or building leadership skills for a promotion in your organization does not have to be complicated or overwhelming. Sign up for this coaching program to improve your self-confidence and leadership skills. https://hamnasiddique.com/products/emotional-intelligence-testing-eq-i-2-0-2-2/

You will learn a lot about yourself and how you work around people. Your newfound awareness will help increase self-expression that will help you get noticed by others.

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How to Understand Intelligence to Achieve Success

“People who boast about their I.Q. are losers.” ― Stephen Hawking

 I believe I must thank Alfred Binet, Robert Yerkes, David Wechsler and the list goes on for the psychological assessments we have today. When IQ traveled the Atlantic and reached the American soil, the psychologists decided that this little gem was innate and was determined by your ethnic group, culture, and genes. People from war zones were tested before their entry to the US and were noted to have lower IQ whereas the Nordics were tested and found to be high in IQ. The same ethnic group of people who scored low in the IQ tests was tested later and found to have a much higher IQ. Research into this change revealed that this was due to proper nutrition, education, and also some change in their parents’ educational level. Yes, it is true, your parent’s education level can have an impact on your IQ.

When psychological tests were introduced in the early days, women performed significantly worse than men. Men had better access to the types of tests such as puzzles and other activities compared to women in that era which connotates the reason for women doing poorly could be the lack of accessibility to such activities. This also suggests that the requirement to do these IQ tests then were purely abstract intelligence. This is different from the practical or emotional intelligence that we talk about today. The biggest misconception the world has about IQ is that it is a measure of your intelligence and it is innate and cannot be changed. The truth is practicing IQ tests can increase your scores. Also, your environment, nutrition, childhood accessibility to healthcare, and other factors have a huge impact on your IQ.

Intelligence must always be seen as multi-faceted but sadly it is not so in the world today. Children who are labeled to have low IQ or considered less smart than their peers grow up into adults believing what they were told. It is astonishing how many adults underestimate their intelligence and subsequently their confidence due to their belief about themselves. Humans have different kinds of intelligence and if we use the right intelligence for the right job, we will be successful and content in our career. Forcing oneself to use the part of intelligence that is not their strength is catastrophic and can eventually lead to burnout and lack of motivation. These are probably the people who wake up on a Monday morning dreading to go to work.

Let us have a look at emotional intelligence. Now, how does a person high in emotional intelligence use it to be successful in life? One element that is prevalent in most emotionally intelligent people is empathy. This comes from being self-aware of one’s own emotions and that of others. The presence of empathy leads to the consideration of feelings of others in action and words. Empathy is a great quality in a leader. An empathic leader is willing to acknowledge other’s emotions and also unmask her own emotions at the right time. This also makes them excellent team players as they are more understanding of others. Emotionally intelligent people are less defensive and entertain constructive criticism. They work on themselves and instigate change in their life. The intrapersonal skills possessed by an emotionally intelligent person makes them an adaptable person. Their outlook is more positive and they do not dwell in negativity. The relationship management of emotional intelligence makes them a great mentor, influencer, and inspirational leader.

My linguistic, interpersonal, and intrapersonal intelligence is high along with some logical-mathematical intelligence, which is probably why I decided to become an entrepreneur and a blogger. My spatial and naturalistic intelligence is lower which is probably why I didn’t become an engineer or a biologist. Being aware of the type of intelligence I possess and knowing my personality strengths gives me gratification in my life and a sense of validation that this is what I am born to do. I can easily justify my lack of expertise in other fields because of the awareness I have created learning about myself. Stephen Hawking’s quote above has so much more meaning to it now.

Hamna Siddique is a career and leadership coach focusing on confidence and personal development.

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