“The butterfly does not look back at the caterpillar in shame, just as you should not look back at your past in shame. Your past was part of your transformation.” –  Anthony Gucciardi

Shame from the past is a burden that some carry their whole lives. Shame is a sort of self-loathing that can affect self-confidence. Considered by many psychologists as a secondary emotion that is triggered by or on par with sadness and disgust, shame can be a hindrance to success or self-worth. People who sense this emotion feel they deserve to feel this way, which in a way, makes it a dangerous entity.

A few ways that shame from the past can affect people’s lives are:

Since shame is so unique to each individual, each person experiences shame for various reasons. I have listed down a few reasons that I am aware of through my coaching training that people experience shame:

Some of the drawbacks of experiencing shame from the past that can affect success in personal and professional lives are:

Here are a few ways you can help yourself by taking control of your shame from the past:

If you can resonate with any of the information said above, please do not suffer in silence with it. Please get help. If you feel you would like to learn more about yourself or improve your personal and professional life, please book an intro session with me. I look forward to helping with your personality development and getting you the success you need in your personal and professional life.

Hamna Siddique is a career and leadership coach focusing on confidence and personal development.

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9 Responses

  1. I had a lot of shame from struggling after giving birth to my second child and once I identified it I was able to let go

  2. I try to be very open and honest about things that are often associated with stigma or shame so that others who might have the same issues as me can see it’s ok not to be ashamed. As an example, I take anti-depressants and see a therapist. I talk openly about that. If I have/had an appointment with my therapist I will not say I have a doctor’s appointment. I will say I have therapy or was talking to my therapist. I want others who might take meds or see someone know it’s ok and nothing to be ashamed of.

  3. I agree that shame causes many people to suffer in silence. I did have a situation a few years back that I carried shame for. Once I was able to openly talk about it, the shame went away. Great post!

  4. I think many people suffer from shame silently. People carry some shame for their lifetime and sometimes this shame is never shared.

    Great post – quite a few insights on what shame is and how to deal with it effectively, something that can help many people.

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