Why do we place our emotional well-being below everything else?
I would like to take the help of psychology, my passion to help answer this question since in the past we humans have taken the help of psychology to understand our complex and complicated human existence.
But let us not forget Biology, the discipline which defined the first difference between a man and a woman. Biology taught us that men and women have different physical parts and slowly these physical parts were connected to our psychological qualities. The men were expected to look masculine and masculinity was associated with strength. Women physically exhibited fertility and femininity, that were linked to the soft touch and gentleness of a caregiver. What does this caregiver do? Stays domesticated; away from the public eye, putting everyone else before her, always working hard, doing chores, having no time for herself. What do the men do? Gallops to the public arena, looking strong and ready to face the world and solve the problems of men and women. That seems a lot on the men’s shoulder too.
The women look at these men and envy them for their easy access to the public arena. Men look at these women and said to themselves they are tired of being strong but will never give up the public arena as this is where we belong. In between the war for survival both the men and women suffer. Our minds and emotional well-being became our last priority. The survival in this materialistic world takes precedence over everything else. Instant gratification takes over. It became important to show people we have everything we need even though we are empty inside.
Our minds, our feelings, our well-being is concealed within ourselves, even concealed from ourselves sometimes. How do we reintroduce ourselves to these minds and achieve a state of balance and emotional well-being? It is simple. Access it.
Yes, it is that simple. Now, you may do it yourself through your rituals of prayers, meditation, or just look at your behavior pattern, make a plan, and follow-through. But sometimes, we know that we need someone to motivate us to achieve what we have been looking for and keep us accountable for our actions to reach our goal since it is so much harder doing it alone. Life coaching helps in getting to know yourself, know what makes you happy, what comes naturally to you, and live the life you have always wanted to live.
Hamna Siddique is a career and leadership coach focusing on confidence and personal development.
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