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Are you unhappy with your career?

 

 

I grew up in an environment where career counseling or guidance was rather nonexistent. I had a couple of choices to choose from to pick my major and not a lot of thought was put into it. We planned vacations more elaborately than my career. My father, being a successful banker and a good role model, due to his success, I presumed that is the path I should take. Soon I realized that as much I love Accounting and Business; I could not be confined to these disciplines alone for the rest of my life.

Shortly after my graduation, an insurance job fell on my lap, and within a couple of years, I was working in Lloyds of London feeling empty inside but making big bucks or should I say quid. The feeling was ironic as a few years back I yearned to be here and I thought I would be overjoyed if I had this job but here I was unhappy and questioning my life choices. I remember sitting on top of high-rise buildings in London and not feeling the content I should be feeling. There was an emptiness, a big void, and even after having a great job, I felt like an underachiever. This feeling made me feel emotionally paralyzed inside. Over the years, I became good at ignoring this feeling and tried to move on with my life.

And move on…I did…to the United States of America. I continued to feel lost with no help. It took some time to reflect on my likes and interests by myself. I decided to study psychology, as I have always had an interest in it but never had a chance to study it. I saw my move to the United States as an opportunity to go back to college and major in psychology. It was a big move for me as I had to revisit my fear and the emptiness I was talking about earlier. I decided to come face to face with my fear and joined college. It is hard to forget my first day as I decided to sit in the front row right under the professor’s nose. I enjoyed and galloped through every class that was offered. Years flew like weeks as I discovered my passion for psychology.

Today, I am proud to say that I am a coach. I realize that I took a complete 360-degree turn in my career. I love helping people achieve their dreams – dreams that have been ignored or hidden for years. I noticed the emptiness in me and decided to do something about it. I realized that if I did not do it for myself, no one else will. I realized the importance of career coaching the hard way, which is why I give career coaching a priority. I have created a unique career coaching program for my clients who need a little help in their careers. This is an investment for your life. Don’t be stuck in a job that you hate or feel half fulfilled. We can work together and explore your options in the career you already have or would like to have. We can also help locate your strengths and find a career you would like to transition to. My career package includes Career Planning, Transition, Leadership, and Exploration.

Hamna Siddique is a career and leadership coach focusing on confidence and personal development.

Email: hamnasiddique@goldbridge.llc. |https://hamnasiddique.com| ©2020 Goldbridge Coaching LLC |All Rights Reserved|

 

 

Why is our emotional well-being our last priority

 

Why do we place our emotional well-being below everything else?

I would like to take the help of psychology, my passion to help answer this question since in the past we humans have taken the help of psychology to understand our complex and complicated human existence.

But let us not forget Biology, the discipline which defined the first difference between a man and a woman. Biology taught us that men and women have different physical parts and slowly these physical parts were connected to our psychological qualities. The men were expected to look masculine and masculinity was associated with strength. Women physically exhibited fertility and femininity, that were linked to the soft touch and gentleness of a caregiver. What does this caregiver do? Stays domesticated; away from the public eye, putting everyone else before her, always working hard, doing chores, having no time for herself. What do the men do? Gallops to the public arena, looking strong and ready to face the world and solve the problems of men and women. That seems a lot on the men’s shoulder too.

The women look at these men and envy them for their easy access to the public arena. Men look at these women and said to themselves they are tired of being strong but will never give up the public arena as this is where we belong. In between the war for survival both the men and women suffer. Our minds and emotional well-being became our last priority. The survival in this materialistic world takes precedence over everything else. Instant gratification takes over. It became important to show people we have everything we need even though we are empty inside.

Our minds, our feelings, our well-being is concealed within ourselves, even concealed from ourselves sometimes. How do we reintroduce ourselves to these minds and achieve a state of balance and emotional well-being? It is simple. Access it.

Yes, it is that simple. Now, you may do it yourself through your rituals of prayers, meditation, or just look at your behavior pattern, make a plan, and follow-through. But sometimes, we know that we need someone to motivate us to achieve what we have been looking for and keep us accountable for our actions to reach our goal since it is so much harder doing it alone. Life coaching helps in getting to know yourself, know what makes you happy, what comes naturally to you, and live the life you have always wanted to live.

Hamna Siddique is a career and leadership coach focusing on confidence and personal development.

Email: hamnasiddique@goldbridge.llc. |https://hamnasiddique.com| ©2020 Goldbridge Coaching LLC |All Rights Reserved|